Female Led Relationships Dicey

By Georgie Maddison - Sunday, May 27th, 2007

Female led relationships often run with an edge not evident in relationships where the male is the dominant partner.

This was brought home after an incident this weekend at a girls soccer match, where the pure bitchiness appalled me. In this case it was a female coach dictating to her female players, as coaches of any sex are wont to do. But the undercurrents of favor and spite were evident to even outsiders. No wonder the team lost and languish at the bottom of the league ladder.

Going online, the same theme recurred in blog posts where [tag]female led relationships[/tag] featured. For instance:

‘Speckleddream’ discusses her new relationship, two-thirds of which puts him down with catty remarks. She concludes by quoting Julia Roberts’ character from Pretty Woman: “I say who, I say when!” Claiming to be in a ‘calm’ mood, she vociferously proclaims “This is strictly business, dirty business. But this time, I’m in charge. You see, I don’t really want a relationship with this man, this pedestal of an existence.”

What potential do you think this relationship has?

Or, how about ‘The Mouse’… “I love you” is not an empty statement in our house and we both like to spend time with the other. She says that after a weekend catching up with old friends, she appreciates just how much that understanding means. The observations then relate how these friends – both female led relationships – have fallen apart and are now maintained by constant invective. The toxic relationships are poisoning all friendships around them.

Or how about the musings of “A Mythical Sea Sprite”? She at least is preparing herself by figuring out what she wants in an ideal relationship… even if every point on her list is cosmetic. It includes ‘the norm’ about good looks etc, then goes on to include dimples, height, tattoos, piercings, adams apple, territorial-ness, driving, spelling and drinking skills.

Now, really! Whatever happened to relationship magic, to trust, love and decency? The inner soul. Male dominated relationships don’t have a stranglehold on peace and trqnauility, pizzaz and fireworks, but generally, they appear to be far freer of this sort of nonsense.

Recent neurological research has established that male and female brains are hard wired differently. Men, for instance, naturally alternate the use of their left and right brains. Women use both sides of the brain together. Perhaps this explains ‘women’s intuition’ and ability to multi-task so effectively.

Perhaps the brain’s wiring also controls this penchant for spiteful and manipulative control of relationships.

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