Dating has to start somewhere… so how to get a girl to like you is probably one of the most vital bits of information any male can acquire. Yet strangely, it seems it’s also one of the most elusive.

David DeAngelo, author of the best-selling Double Your Dating, says one of the best ways is to spend time watching guys who know what’s up as they interact with women. And the key to this is to observe the process… not just what’s said, but the attitude, the tone, the body language and all that goes with it.

It’s vital, he says, to learn the skill rather than to get the girl.